Posts

Dealing with elderly parents

  Salaam. I appreciate that it can be stressful in having to attend to Teta in light of her recent odd behaviour. So just some reminders to make it easier for us to deal with insha'Allah. 1. The approach to our elderly parents (grandparents have the same right) is given to us directly by Allah SWT: ۞ وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓا۟ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَـٰنًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّۢ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًۭا كَرِيمًۭا  For your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And honour your parents. If one or both of them reach old age in your care, never say to them ˹even˺ ‘ugh,’ nor yell at them. Rather, address them respectfully. وَٱخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ ٱلذُّلِّ مِنَ ٱلرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ٱرْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرًۭا  And be humble with them out of mercy, and pray, “My Lord! Be merciful to them as they raised me when I was young.” 2. We c...
Post a Comment
Read more

download/ podcast

The podcast for the rational believer series is now available on all podcast providers https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rationalbeliever/episodes/22--concluding-thought-e1v2hm6 The book is available on Amazon (not-for-profit, just printing costs): The Rational Believer: Faith Unblinded https://amzn.eu/d/086fHDum https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RationalBeliever
Post a Comment
Read more

17. Irrational (non)problem solving: Believing that the jinn, black magic and evil eye is harming us

  Many psychological and physical problems. arise when we don’t prioritise certain knowledge over speculative knowledge. For instance, some people are constantly worried about the possibility of germs on their hands making them ill. This causes them to wash their hands constantly until they start to chaff and peel from constant washing -  an obsessive compulsive disorder. In this case the idea of “germs  leading to an illness are on my hand” is speculative and the idea that “there is no reason to think that there are any pathogenic germs on the hand ”, would be more certain since from the observable sensed reality there was nothing to indicate that their hands have been contaminated. Therefore to suspect that there are pathogenic germs present on the hands when there was no incident to place them there would be a case of speculative thinking overriding rational thinking.In this case it leads to anxiety and physical harm.  Similar to this are the ideas that paralyze u...
Post a Comment
Read more

17. Irrational (non)problem solving: Believing that the jinn, black magic and evil eye is harming us

  Many psychological and physical problems. arise when we don’t prioritise certain knowledge over speculative knowledge. For instance, some people are constantly worried about the possibility of germs on their hands making them ill. This causes them to wash their hands constantly until they start to chaff and peel from constant washing -  an obsessive compulsive disorder. In this case the idea of “germs  leading to an illness are on my hand” is speculative and the idea that “there is no reason to think that there are any pathogenic germs on the hand ”, would be more certain since from the observable sensed reality there was nothing to indicate that. Therefore to suspect that there are pathogenic germs present on the hands when there was no incident to place them there would be a case of speculative thinking overriding rational thinking.In this case it leads to anxiety and physical harm.  Similar to this are the ideas that paralyze us from looking for rational solutio...
Post a Comment
Read more